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Sometimes I forget how others are effected...

Today I ran into my daughter's 4th grade teacher. As we were chatting, she told me that she was grading a recent test and one of the answers made her cry. In Social Studies, they are talking about planning events and how it might not happen exactly as was planned. On the test, the question asked was "Name a time that you planned something that did not happen the way you expected." My daughter wrote that she had been planning a birthday party, but then her daddy had a stroke so it did not happen. I almost fell apart at the school; I have spent so much time focusing on my own difficulties that I did not take the time to think how others are still dealing with the situation. Yes, it was nearly 2 years ago, but that does not erase the difficulties that some have had dealing with the result of that event. So, thanks Mrs. Kamp for reminding me that, even though I sometimes do not hear about those difficulties, it does not mean they do not exist.

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  1. Your stroke happened 2 years ago? I thought it just happened this year. My mom had a mini stroke this past summer (she's 76). She's doing fine now even though she now has diabetes ans is in heart failure. Whenever she forgets something or makes a stupid mistake she jokes around saying "after all I did have a stroke" and we laugh it off. Maybe you need to think about other things. Your stroke i your whole life now.

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